Do you ever feel as if you dated Jekyll and married Hyde? One wife said she would always cherish the initial misconception she had about her husband. Someone said marriage is composed of three rings: engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering. One pastor visited a children’s Sunday school class and asked them what God said about marriage. One boy chimed, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” Marriage is a romance novel where the hero dies in the first chapter.

Marriage can be tough. I have a great marriage, but sometimes I want to say to my wife that if she really loved me she would have married someone else. The problem is our perspective. Most good marriages are 90 percent positive and only 10 percent negative. People focus on the negative 10 percent, which makes their marriage feel as if it is 90 percent negative.